Allow me to introduce myself
Hello! Hello! My name is Rachel and I am - so - super - excited to be a part of The Village and bring some of my own tribe’s life into the mix.
I thought I would take my first journal entry to introduce you to my growing family and give you a little background on who we are and what makes us so….us.
My husband Haven and I have been together for 11 years & married for 8 this October. I met him a few months after graduating from High School through mutual friends. He was kind hearted. Chivalrous. And would always ask me to call him when I got home to make sure that I was safe. We broke up once for a couple of months. But in my heart I knew that we would come back together, and that he was the one. So far, he still is. And on most days I am pleased with that decision.
When we were dating I honestly never wondered about what kind of father he would be to our possible, future children. He was just so naturally nurturing with me that I didn’t even have to imagine how he would treat his little ones. He is just as much a part of raising them as I am. He cooks (most of the time actually), cleans, runs errands (in the minivan with the kids- like a boss), changed cloth diapers without hesitation, and more…except maybe laundry. I pretty much exclusively do that. Oh wait, he did do cloth diaper laundry but somehow has an aversion to clothing. But hey, i’ll take it. He is a fantastic, loving and -mostly patient - Father. More patient than me on most days…just keepin’ it real! He has his very own “Daddy’s girl” and a boy that wants to be just like him. His Father’s Day card from our daughter encompassed his love of brewing, cuddles with the kids and family bike rides.
Next we have Galilee. Our first born. The definition of a strong willed child…I don’t know where she gets it!? (Spoiler alert - it’s me. She get’s it from me) She’s a 6 year old with a fierce sense of self and “I can do anything” attitude. My favorite qualities of hers are the one’s that are toughest to parent. She can push my buttons like no other. (Sorry Mom, I now know how you fee. You can wipe that giant smile off of your face that I know you have while reading this) I can see the road ahead…teaching her to use her powers for good over evil will be my life’s mission. She is exhausting. But oh-so funny, clever, sarcastic, cute and entertaining. She is sensitive and has a very soft heart. She is also obsessed with her cat - Sampson - formerly known as O’Malley, formerly known as his original name - Mr. Juliet. Yes. You read that correctly. She loves herself an alias and depending on the day will introduce herself with a different name. She also used to have an imaginary friend named “Jimmy”. He was a d bag. Always up to no good. I think his mom sent him off to boarding school. Too bad they didn’t take the cat with them.
Now for the boy. Levi. The rascal that just turned 3. The one who will always give me a kiss, even when I don’t ask for one. The one who at least once a day asks to “snug” me. Sometimes that means lying in bed with him cuddled up with his head under my arm. Other times that means him sitting next to me trying to sneak his hand into my shirt and grab a boob. Again, just keepin’ real. What can I say. Boobs do seem like they would be a comfortable place to rest a hand. They are basically pillows. Depending on how deflated they are after breastfeeding haha. Levi is a character. He loves to dress up as super hero’s and “fight bad buys” aka his sister or our dog, Seamus. He is naked like 87% of the time if we are home, ok 97% of the time. He never has pants on and demands to sleep naked. He will also ask to pee in the drain or sink at a public restroom…or in a cup if we are in the car. He has bruises on his forehead pretty consistently, loves to skateboard, puts bugs in his pockets to save and play with later, and will climb and jump off of just about anything - the higher the better. But he is terrified of waves…unless we are in Hawaii, those one’s are safe. Obviously.
Our third babe is River. When I visualized our family I pictured three children. But we decided spring of 2014 that Levi would be the last edition. We were just starting a new business, things were beyond hectic, the kids were older, and we had a bit more freedom. So I went through our baby stuff and purged. Bye bye baby clothes, toys, furniture, cloth diapers… you name it - we got rid of it. The next month - we conceived our surprise baby! I was in shock. Like for reals. Totally taken aback. Haven was instantly excited. It took me a minute. I was pregnant again!? I was going to give birth again!? I was going to have another baby?!!?!! But I thought we weren’t doing that?! I was also kicking myself for finally letting go of all that baby stuff! Then it sank in and I mentally adjusted. I was going to have another baby!!! I love babies! Especially MY babies! I LOVE giving birth! And being pregnant is…well…it is making a life and that’s pretty bad ass too! I turned from totally terrified of the idea, to totally excited. My plans shifted, I adjusted, I welcomed the new little life growing inside me and I couldn’t wait to share the news. Sadly at about 12 weeks, we lost our sweet babe. But he still is one of ours. And always worth mentioning. More on River and miscarrying to come.
Finally we have the latest addition. Our Rainbow baby. [a rainbow baby is a baby that follows a loss] Due to arrive this August. A year to the month of River’s birth. What a gift right? Talk about timing. I am in my 31st week of pregnancy and it’s still surreal to think that I will end up with a happy, healthy, real live baby in my arms in a few months. This pregnancy has been really rough. Mentally, emotionally and physically. But I am so thankful for this gift. I will fill you in with more details soon.
And last but not least - yours truly. So I told you that Haven and I met after I graduated High School. I was 18 and he was 23. We got married when I was 21. What can I say…I was a girl who knew what she wanted. Everyone said that we would get pregnant right after we got married. My Mom especially. And she wanted us to wait, so that I would finish my schooling and not be a drop out. I swore they were all crazy. A baby?! Who has time for that? I was working from 6am-2:30pm full time and going to school from 3pm-10pm 4 days a week. I had a lot going on, I was hustlin’.
Here is what our first year of marriage looked like :
Married October 27 2007. Positive pregnancy test January 2008. Galilee born that October. Happy one year anniversary. You have a newborn.
Well we proved them right now didn’t we! And you know what, that was the best decision we ever made. Yeah that’s right, we also planned it. What can I say…I changed my mind. And wanted a baby. STAT. I had always wanted to be a mother and after we tied the knot the baby alarm went off. Since then so much about me has changed. I have basically grown up with Haven, grown up being a Mother and I am still evolving and learning every day. It's been pretty fun. Crazy. But fun. Exhausting. But fun.
Since giving birth to Galilee I have taken up a few new adventures. I am a natural childbirth educator, a placenta encapsulation specialist [...wanna see some cool pics?!], I started a homeopathy certification course [who knows if I will ever finish that], and now I am a part of The Village. I will be posting a couple of times each week about my life, growing belly, crazy kids, adventures, happenings, holistic living stuff, real food recipes and more. If there is anything that you would like to hear more about - just ask! I know a lot of random things about a lot of random things. And I am an open book. I look forward to bringing my family's life into yours. It's going to be great.